[Wedding Wednesday] …On Marriage Equality

“I have to tell you that over the course of several years as I have talked to friends and family and neighbors when I think about members of my own staff who are in incredibly committed monogamous relationships, same-sex relationships, who are raising kids together, when I think about those soldiers or airmen or marines or sailors who are out there fighting on my behalf and yet feel constrained, even now that Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is gone, because they are not able to commit themselves in a marriage, at a certain point I’ve just concluded that for me personally it is important for me to go ahead and affirm that I think same sex couples should be able to get married.” – President Barack Obama

While I love wedding trends, sometimes I need to remind myself that weddings are not about parties. Weddings are about love, and our commitments to love each other. I couldn’t be more overjoyed that Obama has decided to come out and make a statement about marriage equality. I know that the statement itself doesn’t really mean anything in the short term, but I do see it as a symbol of our countries growing acceptance and love. The fight for marriage equality is long from over, but I really do feel hopeful that we will see it in the near future.

[Wedding Wednesday] Alternatives to Dancing.

I know it may be hard to believe, but not everyone loves to dance. To me, a wedding isn’t complete without a greeeeat playlist for dancing, but some people don’t really enjoy the dance floor. For those people, I think it would be fun to offer alternative activities. Here are some ideas from the blogosphere… {they are sourced when possible, but some of the links were broken on pinterest/google image search. click for links when applicable.}

BOUNCY CASTLE:

I know this sounds super childish, but just look how much fun these people are having….

BOARD GAMES:

pretty much everyone can find a board game they like, so this would be a total crowd pleaser.

GIANT JENGA:

I’ve played this at the bar before and it’s quite fun! it would be a cute addition for sure.

LAWN GAMES:

for anyone planning an outdoor wedding, lawn games could be really fun and pleasing for a variety of ages.

PINATA:

this is the one i’m hands down without a doubt using. pinatas are fun, and totally worth it if only for the great photo ops…

WHAT EXTRA ACTIVITIES WOULD YOU LOVE TO SEE AT A WEDDING?

[Wedding Wednesday] Four wedding trends that need to go away.

1) Mason Jars.

Okay folks, I love mason jars… I have a few that I use as glasses and I had a roommate who kept her mom’s delicious jam in them. Their cute, rustic, affordable- I get it. I even liked when I started seeing them pop as decoration because I felt they were a sweet DIY option. I’ll probably even end up using them when I get married in some way…. But it has gotten way out of hand. Now there are mason jar invitations, his and her mason jars, the red neck wine glass, mason jars with lace, mason jars with lights in them, mason jar favors….. I think the last straw was when my friend Jessica jokingly referred to this photo on facebook:

ARE THAT MANY JARS REALLY NECESSARY!?!?!? You know what would give the exact same affect? Using JUST the candles. Or just ONE simple centerpiece like normal people.

I’m calling mason jars over. I’m done with them and I really don’t want to read your next DIY project that uses them. Don’t make me.

2) Overly themed weddings.

Let’s get this straight now. Being inspired by something and wanting to capture the essence of it in your wedding/party/decor? Awesome. Choosing a theme and doing everything to perfectly match said theme in every single solitary detail so your guests feel like they are stuck in a diorama and can’t help but only talk about said theme? So not awesome.

I’ve been going back and forth of the theme thing, but this wedding inspiration really pushed me over the edge:

The Hunger Games? REALLY? You want to base your wedding on post-apocalyptic novel in which children have to kill each other? Go ahead- if your want your guests talking about their love for dystopian literature and how much they relate to Katniss.

I’m gonna stick to the best theme of all- wedding. For the love of God, please do the same.

3. The excessive amount of wedding-related photo shoots.

It used to just be that you would hire one photographer to take pictures of you and your family plus capture a few photos of the day. Now we have engagement photos, day of photos, bridal photos, “trash the dress” photos, boudoir photos… it is just too much.

Don’t get me wrong, I like the idea of all of these things, but the wedding industry has taken them to the extreme. Do you really need engagement photos inspired by “The Notebook”?

A special note on boudoir photos: This one is not a new trend by any means, but I can’t help but cringe every time I see these mentioned. For those not following, “boudoir” is a fancy word to describe seductive, sometimes nude photo shoots that women do for their husbands to be. I often seem them described as a “fun gift” to present your man on the morning of the wedding to give him a “peek” of what is to come. BARF. I find the whole idea pretty sexist that your future husband is “entitled” to sexy photos.

4. The use of “vintage” as an adjective.

This is a vintage wedding dress:

This is not a vintage wedding dress:

There is a very significant difference between the two dresses, and I’m getting sick of both of them being referred to as “vintage”. They aren’t.

WHAT TRENDS DO YOU WANT TO GO AWAY?

[Wedding Wednesday] Tea Party Bridal Shower

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One the of the best bridal shower posts I ever saw on a blog was this one from Green Wedding Shoes. I love the idea of using a tea party theme for a shower! You could draw inspiration from the Mad Hatter, like these women did, or rely more on the vibe of Sofia Coppola’s Marie Antoinette. Here’s some inspiration…

DECOR:

INVITATIONS:

via Oh So Beautiful Paper

via Wedding Paper Divas

via Cupcake Cutiees on etsy

FOOD:

In college when my roomie Jessica and I threw an Alice and Wonderland tea party and I think the menu we served would work great….

Starting at the Chocolate Strawberry, going clockwise… with similar recipes linked where possible:

Apple Tart, Meat Pie, Quiche, Mini Chicken Salad Sandwich, Scones, Lemon Curd, Whipped Cream, Cranberry Shortbread.

Serve up these (or other mini treats) with a variety of tea and coffee. And don’t forget the Sofia minis!

AND OF COURSE, OUTFITS (click images for details):

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Wouldn’t that shower just be marvelous?

[Wedding Wednesday] Alternative Wedding Treats

Let’s all be serious for a second…. wedding cake is usually kind of gross. Most of the time and money is spent on the decoration of the cake and not the taste. People don’t usually loooove the cake. So why have it? Choose something else that you love for your dessert! Here is some inspiration for other yummy wedding treats:

So what do you think…. is wedding cake the only acceptable wedding dessert?

[Wedding Wednesday] Printable Wedding Invites

One of the easiest ways to save money while planning your wedding is to print your own invitations. If you are really great at design you could do this yourself, but there are also many classy options out there online. Here are just a few examples of the great options out there……

WEDDING CHICKS: (free)

swooncreative on Etsy ($35):

youngwanderlust on Etsy ($10):

sthblue on Etsy ($46):

somethingmodern on Etsy ($27.50):